A single mother with two sons has spoken on the peculiarities of giving her children the freewill to be who they want and not force them to take up her laid down rules like most mothers would do. She is raising her sons to be feminists and she expressed her deep disappointment with the society’d disapproval of her parenting style.
She took to Twitter to highlight the challenges she and her sons face and the pressure they get from the children’s school counselor, the teachers, Nigerian men, to peer pressure, girls and lot more.
Read her tweets below and share your thoughts on this. Is there a good or bad way to raising kids?
When it comes to home improvements, there’s plenty of things you can do yourself, provided you have the right tools and know-how. These days, you can find everything you need to know about common home improvements, including step-by-step videos. So, if you’re looking to save money and learn something new, all you need is the right tools. Wouldn’t it be nice to be freed from that Electrician, Plumber or Capenter that always disappoints or partly fix thing so you could call them again soon?
A well-stocked toolbox
The most basic thing you’re going to need is a well-stocked toolbox. This will provide you with the right tools to carry out a wide range of tasks around the house. The majority of toolboxes come with numerous compartments to fit a wide range of different tools in.
You’ll want to fill it with several size wrenches, screwdrivers, pliers, screws, nuts, bolts and a hammer. Do a little research and you’ll even find guides on how to create the perfect toolbox. Facebook and YouTube are platforms with wealth of information on this. You can even include more unusual items such as nail files and a flashlight. You’ll be surprised just how useful your toolbox will prove to be over the years!
A power generator
Now, this is something you’ve probably never even thought of. However, a portable generator can be an extremely useful thing to have in the home. It can provide back-up power in the event of a power cut or help you to power tools outdoors or in outbuildings.
As an added bonus, portable generators can also be taken on camping trips, making them ideal for those who love to get outdoors but who miss the convenience of power.
Levels help you to ensure work carried out around the home is even. Have you ever struggled to hang a picture and see whether it’s level? Or maybe you’ve tried to cut or sand down a piece of furniture but you’ve struggled to ensure it’s even? A level tool can help to take all of the guesswork out of it. You can use it for a wide variety of DIY tasks and they’re pretty inexpensive to buy too.
A selection of knives
No, we’re not talking kitchen knives here. There’s a range of DIY knives you’ll want to invest in.
Utility knives for example, can be used to trim carpets, install vinyl flooring, score drywall and even open boxes. They have numerous purposes and can prove extremely useful. Once you’ve invested in one, you’ll be surprised that you lasted so long without this awesome tool.
Putty knives can also be great to have lying around; especially if you have children! They’re especially good at scraping off paint and glue. You can also use them to spread paste and putty (hence the name).
Overall, there’s a lot of tools you might need to carry out home improvement tasks. However, the above are some of the main ones you’ll want to invest in. Having the right tools makes a massive difference and definitely makes home improvements easier to carry out.
The Kwara State Government has warned that jail-term awaits people caught in child-trafficking, child or pedophiles in the state.
The State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development, Doctor Ayike Saka, gave the warning during this year’s New Year party organized for orphans from various reception centers in Ilorin.
According to him, government is currently taking care of some children abused by a pedophile father as well as abandoned triplets.
She explained that the young girl that was sexually abused by her father went through depression, but currently being rehabilitated by the state government and the father arrested.
The Commissioner added that three other cases of child abuse were currently being handled in various courts.
She explained that the ministry had various departments such as the orphanage, juvenile delinquent and child-trafficking departments to take care of children’s affairs in the state.
AMBODE’S WIFE PRESENTS GIFTS TO FIRST BABIES OF 2018
…Says Routine Immunization, Post-Natal Care Critical For Newborn
Wife of Lagos State Governor, Mrs Bolanle on Monday underscored the importance of routine immunization and post-natal care for the survival and growth of newborns, saying it was important for nursing mothers to pay greater attention to the health of their children.
She also advised expectant mothers in the State to justify government’s huge investment in maternal and infant health care by staying away from quacks and patronizing government’s health care facilities.
Speaking while presenting gifts to first babies of the year at three General Hospitals in the State, Mrs Ambode said just like the new year, the birth of a new baby brings hope, and such was why adequate care must be accorded newborns.
According to her, “The arrival of a new born generally symbolizes passing the baton to the next generation. In our culture as in many others, a new baby is a messenger of hope, indicating good fortune for the family and society.
“From the depths of my heart, I congratulate and rejoice with the happy parents. As I do so however, I wish to emphasize that post-natal care of the baby is just as important as the ante-natal.
“Therefore, mothers must take all necessary steps to ensure the well-being and good health of their babies. These include strict obedience of instructions of the medical personnel, as well as good care and attention to themselves,” she said.
The wife of the Governor specifically urged nursing mothers to take advantage of the primary healthcare centres provided by the State Government to ensure full complement of routine immunization for their children, and as well make good use of family planning.
Mrs Ambode said she was aware of the fact that the present administration in the State placed high premium on health issues especially maternal and infant health, saying that as part of contribution to health sector, the Committee of Wives of Lagos State Officials (COWLSO), a group which she chaired, provided high dependency units, neonatal care units, and other medical equipment and resources to enhance the quality of maternal and child care services, assuring that more would be done in 2018.
She also commended the health family in the State for the progressive improvement in health service delivery to the people, just as she appreciated corporate donors, philanthropists and Non-Governmental Organizations for their support.
“We also commend the unitring commitment of this administration to continous infrastructure upgrade, provision of modern equipment and human resource development in the health sector,” Mrs Ambode said.
In his remarks, Commissioner for Health, Dr Jide Idris said the event was symbolic being the first activity of government in the year and also exemplifying the priority given to healthcare delivery in the State.
He assured that with the exemplary leadership of Governor Akinwunmi Ambode, the State Government would continue to stimulate the required quality of health service delivery that is poised to address existing health gaps as well as challenges that might emerge in future.
Besides, Idris urged the people to embrace healthy lifestyle, refrain from excessive alcohol, smoking and ensure their environment is clean.
Also, Chairman, Lagos State House of Assembly Committee on Health, Hon Segun Olulada called for strengthening of the referral system to reduce pressure on General Hospitals, saying people should imbibe the culture of first visiting Primary Healthcare centres which have been repositioned in the State.
He expressed optimism that the State Health Insurance Scheme billed to start this year will expand access to healthcare.
The hospitals visited by the First Lady are Ikorodu General Hospital, Gbagada General Hospital and Lagos Island Maternity Hospital.
At Ikorodu, the first babies were twins delivered at 12:23am and 12:24am weighing 2.9kg and 3.29kg respectively, while at Gbagada the first baby weighing 3.4kg delivered at 1:05am. At Island Maternity, the first baby was delivered at 12:05am and she weighed 3.3kg.
Mother’s packs, baby essentials and other baby gifts were presented to the babies and their parents and other babies in the ward by the wife of the Governor.
The programme is held annually in Lagos State to celebrate the first baby born in the state.
1. Bulldozing Parenting
This term describe parents who clears the path in front of their children, getting rid of all obstacles on the path to their happiness and success. A bulldozing parent says ‘I can see an obstacle coming and I am going to get rid of it so you don’t have to face any adversity in your life’. This type of parenting is similar to helicopter parenting.
Their resilience and creativity can be found to be lower, as well as their capacity to control their emotions and behavior because if they do something that turns out to be wrong the parent ‘mows down any obstacles.’
The Pro: It can make everyone’s life easier – but only in the short term.
The Con: It promotes an unhealthy reliance of the child on the parent and it teaches the child that somebody will always come to the rescue.
2. Authoritative Parenting
This way of raising children is refer to as the ‘gold standard’ of all parenting styles as the authoritative parent is war and loving, but also high on limit-setting and establishing boundaries.
Pro: Most children do best under these circumstances. They do better at school, in terms of their resilience, and their well-being. They do better socially, and they do better in life.
Con: It can cause some confusion for parents and children. Sometimes, authoritative parents can be very punitive and children may struggle to disentangle the love and the limits.
3. Helicopter Parenting
The helicopter parents ‘hover’ around their children in order to ward off any potential problems. This style of parenting can be characterized by parents who involve themselves in their children’s lives to such a level, it can hamper their independent developmental skills as mum is always around to save the day.
The Con: This parenting style can result in children who become helpless, and who rely on others to fix their problems, even into young adulthood.
The Pro: It benefits the parent as they get to feel secure and it reduces their anxiety around the child’s welfare because they are doing everything for them. This makes life easier – in the short term.
4. Permissive Parenting
This parenting style is high on love and low on limits. Permissive parents often tend to be very loving, yet provide few guidelines and rules.
Pro: They allow children to develop a high level of autonomy, which can sometimes work out very well.
Con: Sometimes the children will push a little too far and try to do a little too much which can end up becoming problematic as children who are raised in permissive parenting environments tend to respond poorly to authority figures and can tend to do less well in structured environments like school.
5. Neglectful Parenting
Neglectful parenting is a parenting style that is both low on love and low on limits. These parents neither warn [their child] nor are they interested in establishing boundaries. They essentially let the kids raise themselves. This style of parenting offers little in the way of structure, it is not a style that has any advantages, and in fact can be extremely detrimental.
Con: The children tend to be particularly low on resilience and well-being. They tend to do poorly socially, and at school.
Do you know any other parenting style that works? Please share with us.
In recognition of her efforts to empower Nigerian women, Wife of the President, Mrs. Aisha Muhammadu Buhari has been honoured as African Empowerment Legend. The award ceremony was organized by the Wife of the Governor of Katsina State Hajiya Zakiyya Masari on Tuesday 12th December 2017 in Daura, Katsina State.
Speaking on the reason for the award, Mrs. Masari said the recipient exudes qualities which are exceptional and worthy of emulation by people in positions of responsibility. She said Mrs. Buhari has been making donations to victims of insurgency and other disasters, helping the underprivileged, supporting and creating awareness for education and health thereby complementing government policy and encouraging the spread of philantropic spirit among privileged Nigerians.
Mrs. Masari also spoke on Mrs. Buhari's aversion for corruption quoting her dictum that without corruption, there would be enough resources to cater for the needs of all Nigerians. Receiving the award, Mrs. Buhari thanked her host for the award and said it will propel her to do more, calling on stakeholders to improve the situation of women in Nigeria. Earlier in the day, Mrs. Buhari commissioned a Maternity Complex. She also commissioned Muhammadu Buhari School for Science and Arabic Studies Daura, where she is sponsoring the education of 60 pupils.In line with her empowerment drive, she also empowered over 500 youths with Sewing Machines, Grinding Machines, Spiralizers and Tricycles at a separate event.
Mrs. Buhari was supported at the events by Governors of Zamfara, Imo and Kebbi states, wives of the Senate President and Speaker of the House; Mrs. Toyin Saraki and Gimbiya Dogara respectively as well as 14 wives of governors among other dignitaries.Picture 1 - A sample of empowerment items donated to 500 youths2 - Handing over a spiralizer to a beneficiary3 - Handing over a tricycle to a beneficiary4 - Receiving the African Empowerment Legend award5.- Commisioning of Muhammadu Buhari School